Some years ago, I went through a phase of following the teachings of “pickup artists”.
I was quite fascinated, and so I was drawn into their world by curiosity for a short time… Even though I’d had plenty of great experiences with women before that.
During that time, I met MANY guys who were also doing the same. They were all OBSESSED with trying to prove to each other that they could “pick up” girls.
The women they were chasing were regarded almost as opponents to be defeated, and everyone was keeping score of their success and failures on Excel spreadsheets.
It was very much what I call “outsider” behaviour. Many of the guys who were seen as “leaders” in the community were openly admitting that they had not been treated well by females when they were younger, and were out for revenge.
Although I didn’t really get heavily involved, it felt like I had joined a “boy’s club” where everybody was more concerned with impressing & outdoing each other than actually becoming good at getting along with women and being taken seriously by them.
Even the internationally famous pickup & dating coaches I’d met weren’t as good at attracting women as some of the men I had met & befriended over the years.
All I saw was a lot of guys running around APPROACHING many women but actually GETTING WITH very few.
One day it occurred to me that the men who women were most interested in had NEVER studied “game” or pickup skills. They were OUTSIDE of the pickup world.
In fact, there was no SKILL to what they were doing at all.
They had something else. And it was rarely something obvious like looks or money.
They all had a sense of inner CALM, coupled with an outward WARMTH towards those they encountered. I had found the magic ingredients for natural attractiveness.
And so I began paying close attention, and started learning from the 1% of men who are NATURAL with women. And now is YOUR turn to receive that knowledge.